It’s Not Just Women Who Get Sexually Harassed

With the Everyday Sexism project filled with women’s stories and the #YesAllWomen tag trending for so long on Twitter (both of which are incredibly important to raise awareness and an amazing way for people to share experiences of course), it’s easy to forget that men also suffer from being sexually harassed.

A large part of this would appear to be in the work place. The Equal opportunity commission found over 16% of sexual harassment complaints were from men. That was back in 2009 but I get the distinct feeling that has risen since. The fact that I searched on Google for 45 minutes and this was the only hard statistic I found, despite many pages on the subject, shows there needs to be more awareness of this.

I know there are female bosses as well as male bosses out there that are on some sort of power trip and use whatever is at their disposal to intimidate and control the opposite sex. I also understand there might also be women out there feeling resentment for how they have been previously treated by men but ‘turning the tables’ does not equal gender equality or make it ‘even’.

Common examples of sexist adverts against men:

1. Long suffering meek house husband who gets put upon by his feisty wife who’s out having fun with the girls constantly.

2. Just plain stupid and therefore needing his wife to take charge of the mess he’s made.

3. A totally stereotypical bloke called ‘Dave’ who’s interests only stretch as far as football, gaming, food and birds, who’s girlfriend delights in embarrassing, while intellectually lording it over him in public.

Yay – go girl power! Finally sexual equality! Oh dear.

I don’t know if these ads are written by particularly bitter or just plain snobby types of women or whether it’s male writers awful attempts at connecting with female audiences ‘on their level’, which it isn’t, at least not for the women I know.

So called ‘reverse sexism’ is still sexism after all.

We aren’t just talking about women to men sexism and sexual harassment here. It also happens in ways that you wouldn’t necessarily assume.

Examples of sexual harassment my male friends have experienced:

Lee* was having a drink in a beer garden one Sunday with 2 other male friends. All three were tall, athletically built and had shaved heads, they were often mistaken for brothers. The weather was warm and every table was packed with people. A young obviously gay man made a flirty comment to Lee and winked at him as he passed by. Lee was pretty non-plussed, along with his mates and they carried on chatting.

Over the course of an hour, the boy had passed by repeatedly making comments every time, which were getting a little cruder and louder each time. Then he and his 2 mates grabbed the table next to Lee and the boy started telling his mates, loudly and with hardly any subtlety, what he’d like to do to “a certain someone near by’.

Several bar staff had over heard Lee getting harassed and Lee and his mates repeatedly asking the boy to shut up. Non of the bar staff said or did anything though. Non of the other drinkers in the fairly small beer garden had said a thing either, even though several were tutting and shaking their heads. Lee was too shocked and embarrassed to complain to the manager and his mates didn’t feel comfortable getting into a fight or getting done for assault!

When Lee saw the boy deliberately start to make a detour right around the table to where he was sitting, he’d had enough. He stood up and confronted him. All eyes were suddenly on them. The boy again tried to suggest that Lee obviously fancied him and he “knew it was just a matter of time”.

Lee squared up to the boy and looked at him with total disdain and slight amusement before loudly saying “That’s it! Everyone here is bored with listening to you embarrass yourself. Fuck off and take your pathetic little power trip with you.”

The boys cheeks flushed a little and he looked around at the other punters, most of whom were glaring at him. A few were murmuring “well said”. The boy looked at his mates who didn’t look quite as amused as before. Then he declared that the pub was “shit anyway” and stormed off, followed by his mates.

Lee who is a confident out going kind of man, told me after the incident that he realised his hands were shaking and when his mate asked if he was ok, he had to take a moment to compose himself before answering.

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Me and my mate *Danny were in a gay club in Manchester’s gay village, it was Danny’s first ever night out being openly gay and it was his 21st birthday. I noticed that a man considerably older than him was acting really pushy and Danny obviously looked really apprehensive and then totally uncomfortable. I had a word with the man but he just brushed it off as a misunderstanding.

Only a few minutes later he was back and holding onto Danny’s arms as he was trying to pull away. I told one of the door men what was happening and he immediately went over to them. By now Danny was yelling at the man to let him go and looking really freaked out. The door man grabbed hold of the man and dragged him out.

Danny told me almost in tears that the man had said “unless you make me happy, I’ll follow you around until you give in”. In a way, what surprised me wasn’t how the man acted but the fact that Danny was so unprepared for it and didn’t have a clue how to deal with it. Then I realised that as a male he’d never had to get used to dealing with casual sexual harassment or creeps in clubs before.

A male couple who’d seen the man get dragged out came over and asked Danny what had happened and was he Ok. They invited us over to join their table of friends who were all so lovely and understanding.

WE MIGHT ACTUALLY EXPECT SEXUAL HARASSMENT BUT WE SHOULD NEVER JUST ACCEPT IT.

Everyone should stand up for themselves but just as importantly WE SHOULD ALL STAND UP FOR EACH OTHER.

*I’ve changed the names of my friends as they wanted to remain anonymous.

Paul Mitchell Express Dry: Dry Wash & Stay Strong

I’m a huge fan of Paul Mitchell since I read up on his long standing green ethics, so I was delighted to receive these samples to review. There are a lot of cruelty free haircare products out there that condition well but when you have really thick unruly hair like mine, you realise there are very few ranges that actually style hair effectively.

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Dry Wash

Dry shampoos are great for cleaning and adding body to hair. A lot of them are also white and smell like car air fresheners. This one is totally transparent and smells lovely. Not of anything in particular (like flowers or tropical fruit), just lovely. It made my hair feel so silky I didn’t need to straighten the top third, like I would normally after dry shampooing.

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Look, no frantic combing to make it blend in!

Stay Strong

Wow, they aren’t kidding, this could hold up a bank! I created a fancy (messy)  french pleat and secured it with a clip but no grips. I sprayed it with Stay Strong – but didn’t completely coat it as I would with my normal hairspray – then shook my head. It didn’t move. Not only did it not move all day and evening, it didn’t go frizzy in the rain! It was slow combing it out but my hair remained shiny and didn’t need to be washed afterward, which is a big plus point for me. This spray had the same lovely scent as the dry shampoo and didn’t make me cough after applying a cloud of it.

Rating 5/5

Cool Brands is an award by Ethicool given to brands which are cool because they care about the environment and keeping their natural ingredients fair and sustainable. I would have been surprised if Paul Mitchell hadn’t received one. Co-founder John Paul DeJoria states “Success unshared is failure.” Through sales of their Tea Tree brand 100,000 trees have been planted since the brands inception. Carbon emissions are offset through Reforest Action, a program that allows customers to choose from two locations where their tree will be planted  through an online platform. It allows people to choose the project they wish to support and to keep track of the trees.

 

No Means No!

Reblogged

Suzie Speaks

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When I was at University I worked at a local bar that was about ten minutes walk away from the apartment that I lived in. One Saturday afternoon I was on my way to a shift that started at 4.00pm. I was wearing a baggy blue checked shirt with the logo of the bar on it, long black trousers and a sturdy pair of black boots. I wasn’t wearing any make-up, my hair was tied up and I was minding my own business. Suddenly, I heard a man shout:

“Oi! Sexy! Where are you going?”

I turned around, thinking it was one of my friends. I didn’t recognise this man or his friend and so I turned around and carried on walking.

“Aww, don’t walk away! Where are you going? Give me your number!”

I ignored him, but the sound of his voice didn’t get any quieter. They were obviously…

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How To Create The Perfect Outfit For Any Occasion

We’ve all had those “what was I thinking moments” when looking back on photographs of nights out. However, with a bit of perspective, planning, and basic stylistic sense, putting your perfect outfit together is a lot easier than you think! These are all of the fab tips that I’ve learned over the years, through close friends opinions, hours spent on a Saturday trying on outfits and taking selfies in the mirror and some basic trial and error.

Do's

Do wear something you feel confident and comfortable in, if you are going somewhere new or meeting new people. Feeling awkward, silly or fidgety won’t let your personality shine through.

Do consider if your cute new outfit is actually practical for what you will be doing. It’s no good wearing a short dress to go bowling when a flattering belted playsuit would have been better.

Do pick two styles/genres that compliment each other e.g. sporty + structured luxury = sports luxe. Country chick + hippie = Boho (meaning a bohemian gypsy look) etc.

Do consider length, width and cut. Balance out wide hips with bootcut jeans – narrow hips with an a-line camisole top – a wide waist with a fitted jacket – a big bum with a straight 3/4 skirt – a flat bum with a skater skirt – big boobs with a low or scoop necked loose maxi dress – small boobs with a structured top etc.

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Do create the shape you want while working with the shape you already have.

Do wear (or especially buy) the right underwear for your outfit. Consider camera flashes, UV lights, the weather and if you don’t mind accidentally showing it off!

Do consider your colouring:

Black/darker skin suits most shades including citrus shades, bright primary colours and metallics really pop. Ice cream shades (pastels) can sometimes look a little chalky or drab.

Olive/Asian toned skin can also get away with most colours especially citrus and deep earthy shades. Softer shades won’t give a washed out appearance but pale pinks and creams aren’t necessarily complimentary. I’d avoid yellow on paler mid-toned skin as it can create a sallow appearance.

White/Pale skin tones suit mid toned warm colours such as peach, pink, olive, terracotta. Primary colours. Pastels are also complimentary but it’s a good idea to team with natural makeup and gold accessories so as to not look too washed out.

Obviously there are a hundred shades of skin and hair colour so this is just a basic guide. Any beauty counter assistant or personal shopper worth their salt should be able to advise you on what colours suit your individual colouring – natural or otherwise ;0)

Don'ts

Don’t mix up loads of different styles in the same outfit. If you ‘have nothing to wear’ but masses of clothes, you probably don’t have a clear idea of how you want appear. Pick one statement piece you feel confident about and slowly build around it.

Don’t get too carried away with your theme and end up looking like you’re wearing a fancy dress costume!

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Don’t automatically go to that faithful black item you always wear and team it with that faithful black cardigan you always wear and team it with that faithful black…. Inject some colour! Bright accessories like a necklace, a bag or belt can work wonders. Or even just a colourful vest peeping out can transform your complexion.

 

Don’t just swamp your figure in clothes if you don’t like it. That never looks flattering on anyone!

Don’t go all out with your clothes, your makeup, your, hair, your jewellery without pausing a moment to look at yourself subjectively before leaving the house. It’s a fine line between babe and Barbie!

Don’t randomly team solid structured fabrics with floaty sheer fabrics without thinking of your outfit as a whole first.

Don’t worry if you really want to wear that one particular item that you’re worried looks a bit OTT. That’s just you expressing yourself creatively! :0D

Review: ESPA – Treat Optimal Skin ProSerum

Company Ethics & Info

Espa is a brand that I really admire, not just for their cruelty-free policy but also for the natural ingredients they use and also the things they choose to leave out.

No synthetic colours or fragrance, no mineral oil (being derived from petroleum it isn’t renewable), no silicone (which can block pores easily) no alcohol or SLS or SLES which can be incredibly drying and/or irritating for skin.

Espa optimal skin pro serum

Product Info & Ingredients 

‘This advanced proserum helps brighten and even skin tone, enhance elasticity, firm and protect premature skin ageing.’

The oil is enriched with omega 3, 6 & 9, vitamins A & E and extracts of turmeric (which boots circulation and also brings down inflammation), white lupin and sunflower.

Packaging

Simple, elegant and pretty. The glass bottle has a slight ombre effect but it’s nicely shaded to keep the oil from being exposed to too much sunlight. I was curious as to why there was a little button on top of the lid and pressed it a good few times! Upon unscrewing it I realised it was an incredibly useful dropper.

 

 

 

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My Experience

The scent of this oil is incredibly spicy and uplifting! Similar to pepper and cinnamon. I’ve been smoothing a few drops of this oil between my palms and patting it onto my face morning and evening as instructed. When I wake up in the morning my sensitive skin doesn’t have any red patches which it can be prone to and has stayed balanced throughout the night.  I need much less moisturiser than I used and my skin looks plumper and more radiant.

Note after 3 months This has really evened out my old acne scarring and has made a very noticeable difference. I’m delighted!

Price

£48 for 30ml

Normally at this point I’d do Good Points & Bad Points but there aren’t any bad points! Yes, it’s expensive but it’s such high quality that it’s reasonable for a luxury serum. If it were cheaper I’d keep applying it as perfume!

I actually got this product as a gift for subscribing to Marie Claire magazine last month.

 

Feel Happier By Just ‘Being’

Like a lot of women of my generation who are told they can – should, in fact – have it all: A partner, kids and a fulfilling career, at 26 I was feeling the pressure…

The depression started with feeling so empty and miserable that my heart would physically ache. Then silent crying started at random times in work at my desk but somehow I still just hid it and ‘got on with it’.

I had a steady office job, lovely colleagues, a fantastic best friend and lots of cash to spend on dresses for even more wild nights out until 3.00am and yet I was miserable.

As far as I was concerned I was apparently unlovable not having had a long term meaningful relationship (I totally disregarded the fact that several men had fallen for me, they just happened not to be my type), I was still living with my parents and had tried so hard, yet completely failed my A-levels and was now stuck in a crappy job.

Anyway, with the help of my Dr (I was meant to have a counsellor to but got referred to a girl younger than me who wanted to use me as a case study for her uni work!), my parents, best mate I got my head together. I left my job, moved into a lovely house share, easily gained a new qualification and made a group of new friends.

I followed the usual advice about ‘defining your goals’ and ‘small steps to achieving success’ given out sporadically by womens magazines. I even had a ‘Life Plan’ folder with deviders which included a ‘to do in life list’ and an inspirational section.

However, the real break through came a year later. The temp jobs dried up & I’d failed to find a long term job. This also meant I failed at getting my own flat and ended up back at my parents. Bare with me here… I’d tried for a year to learn guitar with great potential (and a fantastic teacher) but still failed at that. I’d fell in love with a married man & failed to find ‘the one’. Half of my friends had moved on and drifted away as well.

I wrote breakthrough rather than break down because I realised that I’d drive myself crazy if I only measured my happiness by success and achievements.

After all I’d been strong enough to get over that earlier depression without meds or counselling (by an odd sequence of necessity rather than choice and I do encourage anyone who’s struggling to be persistent in seeking help) by thinking positively, catching and countering negative thoughts with positive ones. Recognising my emotions and playing devils advocate with myself to gain some perspective and other excersizes similar to those involved in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy I’d picked up through a lot of research.

I thought this time around I’ll actively choose to be happy with my little lot in life. I’ll stop pilling on pressure and learn to be truly happy with the little things, one day at a time – one hour at a time if that’s what it takes.

Ta da! That’s the breakthrough!

I decided I’d list simple things I was glad about every week in a little journal. Here’s the first list I wrote (cringe):

Things I’m Glad About
I’m glad I have a roof over my head a comfy bed.
I’m glad I have two parents who drive me mad but love me.
I’m glad I have a couple of good mates.
I’m glad I have a good mate who might be more ;0)
I’m glad I’ve managed to teach myself how to sing. Thanks to copying Cher, Celine, Whitney, Christina although my voice is no where near as strong.
I’m glad I don’t live in a country at war and that I feel safe walking down the street.
I’m glad I have natural rhythm.
My memory is crap and I’m ridiculously clumsy but (through necessity) it’s made me find ways to stay tidy and organised.
I’m ‘kind of funny looking’ but I can carry off alt styles that my mates would look ridiculous wearing.
I’m glad I live in a town where I can go to the local supermarket or order take away at 11:00pm if I choose.
There is a lot of beautiful countryside only a bus ride away to appreciate.

I chucked the ‘Life Planner’ in the bin, it had served it’s purpose as a project and I bought a scrapbook instead. I stuck anything in it that reminded me of fun times I’d had, like film ticket stubs or postcards and anything that I couldn’t glue down went into a memory (shoe) box. I deleted my neglected weary old blog and started this one instead. I started going to step class for the fun of doing something social & high energy to lift my mood (improving my fitness and co-ordination was just a bonus). I said yes to lots of low commitment fun type things – before I could talk my self of it.

Basically I learned how to enjoy life by just being me. I consciously stopped relying on excess drink or food or other instant gratifications to make myself (temporarily) happy. I stopped being my own critic. I accepted my own limitations and I gave myself a break.

One evening I was feeling a little bored and phoned up a friend of a friend I’d just met and asked him out ‘for a beer and a laugh’. That was The Bloke by the way. Glad I made that decision!

I’m unemployed, I don’t have my name on a rent book and have a very small circle of friends, I’m skint and yet I’ve never felt happier! It’s all about perspective :0)

What are you glad about?

A Discussion: Teetotallers & Drinkers

There is a massive gap between boring teetotallers and wild, fun consumers of alcohol – or so Britain’s drinking culture would have us believe. So I decided to ask 3 non-drinkers a few questions and invited them to ask me and two other drinkers questions in return, to find out our true habits and to swap honest opinions.

 

The Teetotallers

Sarah
Let Them Be Small

Has a personal blog about her adventures in motherhood, which also features product reviews to help other mums out there. She is a wife and stay-at-home mum to their young son. ‘Owns’ two cats and is establishing her own handmade business.

Lorraine The UnCheshire Wife

A lifestyle and personal blogger living in Cheshire, a wife and a mum to one. “Before I was a Mum I enjoyed a drink, we often had friends round for parties and I would entertain them with comedy songs and magic tricks. Quite often the next day I would think “Why did I do that?” but it was fun.

Rachael We 3 Three

A lifestyle and personal blogger living in the North, Rachael is a mum of one who’s ‘loving life’.

 

The Drinkers

Chrissie (myself) Partner to ‘The Bloke’ living in Manchester, total night owl, lover of dark rum, wishing I was a mum to many animals.

Hannah HB Beauty Blog

Multi talented beauty blogger, beauty therapist and hairdresser.

Kate The Beauty Hot Squad

Advertising Graduate and beauty blogger living in Liverpool. A lover of music, films and shopping. Has a major thing for Katy Perry and Disney cartoons.

 

 

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The Teetotallers POV

Was there a specific reason you became tee-total (or never started drinking)?

Lorraine: After I had my son I just couldn’t drink, not only because alcohol made me feel ill but I was always worrying it was like neglecting him, even though I would only have had one or two drinks. I was never a wine/spirits drinker.

Rachael: No one specific reason…Just never really saw the ‘need’ for it tbh. I saw how destructive/damaging drinking can be growing up so never really thought it was really worth it.

Sarah: When I started seeing my husband I used to drive most places, so not drinking became second nature (we lived on opposite sides of Manchester). Then I have been pregnant for much of the past two years, so again it’s just the norm – I can’t think of anything worse than a hangover and two small children! I do now have the odd drink, but it is literally a glass of wine, or a small lager.

Have you ever got drunk or wished you were for some dutch-courage or to wind down?

Lorraine: If I go to a wedding or formal event I am never comfortable so a couple of drinks can just take the edge off enough to relax. I much prefer casual events.

Rachael: Yes I’ve been drunk ;0) I don’t feel I need alcohol to give me confidence. I feel like now I’m a mum my life has moved on to an event where going to clubs/pubs/having hangovers doesn’t feature anymore.

Sarah: Nope, I’m not sure it would help me.

Does not drinking ever become an issue in social situations, regarding peoples attitudes?

Lorraine: Yes, quite often when all the girls get together at my friends house. They all drink quite a lot over the evening and they keep suggesting I have a drink & why don’t I stay over so I don’t need to drive home. i prefer to go home as they all end up extremely drunk & it’s no fun then. They say it’s boring not to drink.

Rachael: Not for me to be honest. I socialise mostly with people who don’t drink or people who don’t ‘need’ to drink at every occasion. I’ve never been made to feel odd or uncomfortable for not drinking.

Sarah: It can be, once people have had a fair bit to drink and are a little tipsy they can mither and moan at you to have just one, but most people accept the choice to not drink. It can also be an issue if out for meals and some people are ploughing through bottle after bottle of wine, and all I have had is an orange juice… often there is an expectation that a bill will be split. That annoys me a little and can cause a bit of hard feeling.

Why do you think society glamourises drinking and equates it with having more fun?

Lorraine: I think because your inhibitions relax and people tend to join in more without worrying. I think all the glitzy adverts showing glamorous parties are so fake.

Rachael: Because as a nation English people are apparently reserved so people buy into the belief that drinking will relax them and make them more interesting. it’s ingrained in our culture that any occasion requires alcohol so it is ‘weird’ without it.

Sarah: I think we live in a consumer driven, hedonistic society. We, as a society, are looking for the next thrill, and don’t always consider the cost, ie: hangover, embarassing self etc. I wonder how many people regret drinking as they did?

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The Drinkers POV

Do you feel more relaxed/confident after having a drink?

Chrissie: I used to be really awkward as a teenager and drinking oiled my brain quite a bit making me more articulate and witty. I get quite hyper on cider and beer so not exactly relaxed, no, ha!

Hannah: Honestly I do. Well, saying that, it depends on the company. If I’m around people I don’t know I’d definitely have a drink to calm my nerves and loosen up a little bit.

Kate: I wouldn’t say more confident but it does relax me after a long week of being tightly wound in work.

What do you think of people who don’t drink?

Chrissie: I do admire and respect people that have never felt they need a drink to bring out their personality. That’s true confidence.

Hannah: It’s absolutely fine, everyone is there own per on and honestly, I wish sometimes I could go out and not be tempted to drink, I think it’s great!

Kate: I think it’s their choice. I know some people think it’s weird but i understand why it might not be for some people.

Do you think people who drink have a better time at parties?

Chrissie: Maybe at first for nervous people but I know a mixture of drinkers/non-drinkers and they all just seem to have an equally good time. I remember a few times though when people have got so drunk they’ve made an ass of themselves, before passing out early on, leaving some of the sober ones dancing until dawn, haha!

Hannah: No not necessarily, I think people who drink let loose a lot more and drinking does give you more confidence but it doesn’t mean they have a better time. I have friends who don’t drink sometimes at parties and they’re the life of the party most of the time! It depends on the person.

Kate: No, the party is what you make it and I’ve been to many a party where some of the most lively people have been sober.

If attending a big social event where you only know a few people, would you need to have an alcoholic drink for confidence?

Chrissie: That is the last thing I’d want to do as I can sometimes loose the filter between my brain & my mouth when I’m rather drunk. That definitely wouldn’t fill me with confidence! I’ve had to build up real confidence since I’ve been attending blogger events on my own.

Hannah: Almost definitely! I would definitely consider having a drink to allow myself to relax a bit more, I’ve had a couple of drinks before dates before now to help me relax.

Kate: No, if I’m anxious I tend not to drink at all. I can get very loose lipped after a few drinks and that doesn’t make the best impression if there are people there that you don’t know.

Do you sometimes wish you hadn’t drank due to your behaviour afterwards?

Chrissie: At least once a week during my 20’s, ha! It got to the point where I’d built up such a tolerance to alcohol I was having to drink massive amounts for it to have any effect, so when things did go wrong, they went really wrong! A few years ago I promised to stop getting drunk for a few months. Since then I’ve found a balance and I either just drink to appreciate the taste or at most to just get tipsy rather than wasted. I have a lot more fun!

Hannah: Yes!!! Not so much now I’m older but when I was younger and the aim was to get as drunk as possible and then regret everything you did the next morning I definitely regretted drinking so much then. Now I know my limits a bit more and don’t tend to do or say things that I’d regret, although don’t get me wrong, saying that, I do occasionally wake up and think “Whyyy did I say that!?”

Kate: I try not to regret things like that but i can pinpoint one time in my life that I do wish I hadn’t been so childish whilst drinking.

Have you gone out socially intending not to drink but then succumbed to peer pressure?

Chrissie: At least once a week during my 20’s. Not peer ‘pressure’ as much as mates saying stuff like “I know it’s a work night but the cocktails were 2 for 1 so here you go” “Ooh thanks, cheers!” Now I’m in my 30’s If I’ve decided to give my body and brain cells a break, I’ll definitely stick to that.

Hannah: I often go out with the intention of not drinking and a lot of the time I manage not to, mainly because I live so far away from anywhere we socialise so if I choose to drive it’s not really an option to get a taxi later if I change my mind. If I didn’t drive then I’d probably never go out and not have a drink however bad that sounds?! (Obviously I’m meaning girls nights out here and not just taking my Grandma for afternoon tea – although a glass of prosecco at lunch sometimes does just happen!!) but in response to the question, i have before now gone out with the intention of not drinking and ended up doing for one reason or another.

Kate: I wouldn’t say peer pressure, it doesn’t take much to sway me but I know how to pace myself if that does happen.

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Pretty varied responses there but some surprisingly common ground found between drinkers and non-drinkers when it comes to social situations. I shall be resisting the urge next time I’m tempted to say to someone “Oh, go on have a cocktail, you can always leave your car in town.” I have to add that, like Sarah, me and The Bloke also hate people ordering massive amounts of wine and then cheekily expecting to split the bill equally with us, tsk. Some silly myths busted, such as the one about alcohol helping everyone with their confidence and no, teetotallers are definitely not boring!

So whatever you fill your glass with – cheers!

 

 

Practical Hippie

With the weather being so changeable and increadibly gusty I didn’t want to go for a floaty maxi skirt and sandals type of hippie look, so I went for the more practical option. I still think it looks quite cute and carefree though. What do you think?

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Head scarf – Accessorize

Earings – F&F @ Tesco

Scarf – M&S

Jacket – F&F @ Tesco

Top – Charity shop find, customised

Jeans – Next

Shoes – Clarks

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I adore this shot of me taken by The Bloke ❤