It’s so easy to get carried away adjusting our appearance, so we look prettier and more desirable. But by who’s standards? Our friends? The medias? Our countries? Our partners? It’s also easy to make a massive change to the way we look by using makeup, hair extensions, hair dye, clothes, heels, false nails ect. It’s all available to us after a quick journey to our local high street.
There’s no doubt it gives us masses of confidence looking like the best version of our selves and it is healthy to maintain a certain standard of personal care obviously, ha! But what if we are trying to make everything look so ‘perfect‘ that we end up looking completely altered? Where does it end!
Actually relying on this sort of ‘fake beauty’ can possibly bring up all sorts of issues because it’s like saying “I don’t look good enough”, which is a very short step to “I’m not good enough” or even “If I look perfect, I will be more valued.” This way of thinking is seriously toxic because we are undermining our confidence every time we look in the mirror. Using products that make us look different for a change can be a lot of fun of course. However, when we get to the point of thinking “I need these extensions, lip plumpers, heels etc to look ok.” we are automatically devaluing ourself on a daily basis. If we meet someone new, how long before we drop the fakery and are brave enough to show our real (and truly hideous) selves? Then what, hope they don’t run away screaming? There is also the question of upkeep and funding endless treatments every 4-6 weeks that we convince ourselves we can’t do without any more. It’s at these moments we need to ask ourselves ‘Is this still enjoyable, really?’
There are so many diverse examples of beautiful women around the world, the fact that a ‘Westernised’ look has quickly become the template for beauty in many countries is really sad. We should never underestimate how good it feels to express our individuality – rather than feeling we have to look a standardised version of pretty. It’s so obvious when someone feels relaxed and happy in their self and that will always be attractive.