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You know that person who’s a friend of a friend (or a few friends), who you were perfectly nice to when you were first introduced but despite this they always act bitchy toward you for no apparent reason?Screen Shot 2016-07-29 at 15.17.28

I’ve had that problem with someone for a decade. Back handed compliments, them making public snarky comments that were so obviously about me, liking a Facebook post within which I’m actually really annoyed – even though they’ve never liked any other of my posts before (I didn’t even realise we were ‘friends’), sometimes completely ignoring me as if I’m just an object like a chair or table. Always careful not to do it in front of people – well not in any obvious way anyway.

The surprising thing is this is a middle aged person who’s acting like a pissy little bitch with me. I’ve even just asked them straight up “You don’t like me do you?” They gave me a sort of smug look and asked “And why wouldn’t I?” Then when our mates came over the person offered to buy me a drink with a smile that didn’t reach their eyes.

I’m not even going to try and figure out why this person dislikes me. I don’t care about their reason. Not everyone naturally gels with everyone else. People are allowed to dislike each other or even have some miss guided chip on their shoulder about that person. However, they should either man up and tell the person what their problem is or be basically polite to them knowing they sometimes mix in the same circles and act like an adult, not some bitchy 14 year old cheerleader. Like I said I’m not so much bothered about their reason, I’m just confused as to why they are still doing this all these years later.

I’ve mentioned it to my bloke and he’s said he’s noticed this person is always very cold toward me, maybe because they are simply a bit of dick? The fact they are aiming it at me is surprising though. But then really who cares, it’s their problem.

That’s the point isn’t it. Not everyone will like you, some people will be a dick for no good reason but really, why waste your time giving a damn :o)

Chrissie


16 responses to “When Someone In Your Extended Social Group Always Acts Like A Pissy Little Bitch Toward You”

  1. depepi Avatar

    My theory is that you have something she cannot have and she’s trying to put you down, just because she is jealous. It might be that you are really cool, or that you explain really funny jokes, or it might be that your blog rocks. Whatever the reason, logical or not, that person is being a bitch with you is because she would like to be you. These type of people try to be near you so they can undermine you. They appear to be nice, but they never say to you things straightforward so you keep on worndering. So, I would ignore her. Unfortunately, I met people like that, and they did the same exact thing. The best medicine ever is to ignore them. The sad thing: they’ll find someone else to bug 😮

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    1. Vamp It Up Mcr (Chrissie) Avatar

      Basically everything you just said I agree with in most cases. I actually think this person just finds it entertaining, simple as. That’s why I came to the conclusion that it’s important for people to not even bother racking their brains as to why people do this because then you are thinking of them. So to just not give a damn anyway. Big smile and a shrug ☺️💁🏽

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  2. Emma Louise ryan Avatar

    Ignore her!

    She obviously isn’t mature enough and needs to get a grip on life. You’re much better than that 🙂

    Em x

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    1. Vamp It Up Mcr (Chrissie) Avatar

      It’s actually a bloke, unbelievably! But yes, I’ll be doing that even more from now on 💁🏽

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  3. joycelsw Avatar

    I find that the older I get, the less I care about relationships that don’t work. Not that I’m being a bitch about things, but the truth is – some bridges are better broken. Hope things get better for you! 🙂

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    1. Vamp It Up Mcr (Chrissie) Avatar

      It just pisses me off that I can’t kick their skinny little ass and have to rise above it – which enables it to carry on. I don’t care so much for me, it’s just that people in general can get away with that kind of shady behaviour.

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  4. Joyce Avatar

    I’ve found that the older I get, the less I care about what people think. Some bridges are meant to be broken, and I guess I’ve learnt to accept that easier as the years pass. Hope things get better for you! 🙂

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  5. Bizarre Brunette Avatar

    I honestly would ignore that person for sure.

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    1. Vamp It Up Mcr (Chrissie) Avatar

      I do mostly, whilst at the same time being aware that I could end up looking like the arsey one. Just a weird situation really.

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      1. Bizarre Brunette Avatar

        Yeah it’s like the mean girls from high school that you have to do deal with in adult form.

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      2. Vamp It Up Mcr (Chrissie) Avatar

        But middle aged 😂 That is actually hilarious when you think about it 😆

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  6. teachezwell Avatar

    It sounds like you’ve done your best. I’d just stay clear as much as I could. And you have a lot of folks who like and admire you. 😊

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    1. Vamp It Up Mcr (Chrissie) Avatar

      Yeah my manners have worn out at this point so I’ll try to, thanks for the advice. Yeah I have a few people who do ^_^

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  7. B Avatar

    I’d probably just delete them from my Facebook! At least that’s one less way they can be a dick towards you!

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    1. Vamp It Up Mcr (Chrissie) Avatar

      Yeah I did that just after I wrote the post. I had no idea they were even on there!

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    2. Vamp It Up Mcr (Chrissie) Avatar

      It must have been back when I was actually still trying with this person for the sake of getting along.

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