Selfcare Feck Up’s, Victories and Weirdness

 

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I’ve been a lazy bunny by not getting up until 1.00pm because I’ve been enjoying the comfort of staying in a real bed again, for as many hours as I choose (long story). The down side of that is getting woken by glorious sunshine but by the time I get up washed and dressed, it’s buggered of behind thick cloud for the rest of the day. That has not helped my mental health or motivation…I swear I’m some kind of emotional weather vane! Anyone else?

List of my self care feck up’s and victories

Bad – Not getting up until pm

Good – Been flying through the novel Mirror Mirror

Bad – At around midnight I realised I was so hungry but the simple burrito I was meant to warm in the microwave collapsed into a soggy mess, I then salvaged it and promptly dropped half onto the floor

Real low – I then sobbed over it (literally), while I cleaned bits of it up and then ate the other half. At least my tears added some well needed salt. I then started bargaining with a God I don’t even believe in to make my Dyspraxia and chronic fatigue easier. Although, to be fair, I had just watched Bruce Almighty. The voice of Morgan Freeman did not reply.

Good – I’ve been keeping up with my skincare routine everyday

Bad – I’ve been abandoning my hydration flask and glasses in random places around the house and then feeling constantly dehydrated. Ironically, this is probably why my memory of where I’ve put stuff has been so crap.

Good – Did shopping with specific meals in mind so everything works with everything else for once.

Bad – Forgot to prepare food to eat for when I’m tired and hungry, then left it too late to be able to cook anything, so had to order takeaway again as very wobbly.

Good – It was a healthy one, with veg curry, avocado sushi and an edamame and spinach salad.

Bad – The next day I forgot that English mustard is much hotter than the squirty American stuff and practically buttered my bread with it!

Good – I’m getting better at keeping track of time and/or setting alarms for things

Bad – Ended up wearing PJ’s two days straight as all of my chillin clothes were in the wash basket and I repeatedly forgot two wash them.

Good – Washed clothes

Bad – Forgot the damn washer had stopped and left the clothes to crease to oblivion for an hour. Had to do another quick wash to sort them out – sigh.

Good – Had a shower and washed my hair, did body and hair care.

Good – Been well on top of my blogging and reading other peoples.

Bad – Having a nightmare with getting on the housing register properly. Every person I’ve spoken to on the phone (as I’ve had total silence from them since July and I’ve noticed several big mistakes) hasn’t had a clue what’s going on. I’ve heard “Oh, that’s odd!?” about four times now. They keep making notes and saying someone will phone me to explain the confusion.

Hmmm – Their medical assessment team will be arranging a visit ‘soon’ apparently….

Good – Finished having a huge clear out. Finished buying new stuff to replace old/unsuitable stuff and am now saving to move into a suitable flat of my own, finally!

Plans

Keep saving.

Use post it notes more often.

Get up before 11.00am.

Plan evening meal and make it/eat it earlier.

Keep up with washing and styling hair, when I have the energy.

Chrissie

 

 

 

 

 

Reducing or Replacing the Clothes I Never Wear

Things I’ve Gotten Rid Of 

I’ve been on this mission for the past 18 months or so as I’m on a limited budget. Here’s half of the clothes and accessories I’ve given to charity, chucked or put into a clothing bank and the (sometimes rather amusing) reasons.

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Cardigan: falling apart from wear. Sunglasses: I sat on them, like a dick…I mean I was the dick for sitting on them! Handbags x4: Not cross body and no zip so too easy to dip/thieve. Denim jacket: Too tight (sob). Belt: Falling apart. Hats x2: Too hot/itchy. Bracelet: Too faffy to be arsed even trying to fasten.

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Knee high boots and ankle boots x2: Heels too big for me balance in these days. Pirate boots: Worn to pieces (sob). Cargo pants: Picked up every bit of fluff and then my neighbours fluff. Dark blue jeans: Kept stretching as waft and weave the wrong way, maybe? Stupid linnen summer pants: They get giant knees in them after one days wear. GIANT B-boy/skater pants: So wide and low slung that I kept tripping over them, getting them caught in doors! Converse and Vans which don’t support my arches and make me fall on my face. Cardigan that was 18 years old. Fitted check shirt that I can’t manage to do the buttons on anymore. Long-line hoodie to go over leggings, 3x leggings and 4x skinny jeans: I now find all of my leggings and skinnies too hot, tight and claustrophobic because of stupid sensory changes.

Some pictured below

Joggers with diamante: (apart from the naffness of diamante) they went all baggy after three washes. Tiny skater skirt: It’s tiny and I am not anymore. Fake Uggs: They have collapsed after constant wear.

The replacements and saves

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Black cuff-ankle jeans: to replace joggers and those fluff prone cargo pants. Camel cargo pants: to replace stupid linen pants and stupid giant pants. Stone wash, boot cut jeans: To replace many others I’ve had over the years. Snake print pants: To replace wearing pyjama bottoms all bloody day. Handbag: Sturdy, zip fastening and cross body – perfect! Shrugs x2: To wear over dresses or a nice top, less frumpy than ancient cardy. Amazing faux leather jacket: To replace really thin, cheap faux leather jacket which fell apart! Structured fake Uggs to replace other fake Uggs. Flat ankle boots I can actually walk in. Custom Nike Air Force 1’s: The comfiest trainers in the world. Knee high boots: Sleek enough to wear with party dresses and tiny heel which I can actually dance in for a bit. I’ve saved the fitted shirt as the perfect summer cover up. Long hoodie, leggings and skinnies: I hope when the weather is freezing, I’ll be happy in them again.

Loss = 25 items

Gain = 12 items

Save = 9 items

Result = 13 items successfully removed or replaced

Doing this has saved me so much time, space, stress and confusion. It’s such a nice feeling to be able to wear and use everything in my wardrobe easily. Now I like getting ready in the morning and look forward to putting together outfits for nights out. It’s amazing how style buoys your personality when you wear things you want to, rather than things you’re stuck with! Charity shops are amazing places to find practical replacements as the items are affordable and you can try them on; just make sure they really are going to earn their place in your wardrobe, otherwise they aren’t a bargain.

Note: Every item that wasn’t working for me went on a ‘Second Chance’ pile and was restyled and worn for a day, before I decided what to do with it or if I should replace it. Apart from the leggings and skinny jeans which are in the bottom of the wardrobe waiting for Winter.

Chrissie

I Share the Veggie, Gluten and Dairy Free Contents of My Cupboards, Fridge and Freezer!

“You’re vegetarian, gluten and dairy free, so what do you eat then?” I’m often asked this question because lots of people are some of the above but most people aren’t all of those things. So here is my response in photo’s.

I Eat

Crisps, natchos, bombay mix, nuts, seeds, cake bars, sweets, cooking sauces, gf pasta, gf gnochi, rice, soup, daal, chilli, gf muesli, ratatouille, roasted peppers, falafel, smokey sun dried tomatoes, artichoke hearts in garlic oil, tamari (soy sauce), gf pies, gf tarts, Vitalite, quinoa, lots of pickles, veggie kebab strips, veggie chicken pieces, McCain Smiles (crunchy on the outside, fluffy in the middle), humous, df cheese, curry, burritos, tacos, all manner of fresh veg, garlic mayo, BBQ sauce, hot sauce, salad cream.

I Drink

Strawberry/chocolate protein powder and rice/almond/coconut/hazelnut milk, innocent smoothies, orange/pomegranate/mango/guava  juice.

[I’m sorry that some of the photos could be clearer but it’s so difficult taking pictures inside a very deep cupboard and of backlit items in a fridge.]

If you have any queries about brands and ingredients, I’ll do my best to help you out :o)

Chrissie

Hallowe’en Inspired Accessories

I know it takes some people a lot of confidence to really go-all-out for Hallowe’en but that doesn’t mean you can’t Vamp It Up a bit. Sorry, I couldn’t help it!

Deaths Head Moth Pin (print also available in dresses and tops) – Em and Sprout

Jezebel Tote Bag – Vivienne Of Holloway

Zombie Girl Pin – Worn To Death Apparel 

Cobweb Tassel Earrings – Boohoo

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Hangover Prevention and Selfcare Bedtime Routine

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These items are the reason I wake up feeling and looking refreshed, rather than trashed. I’m thinking this will come in handy for people who like to have a drink over the weekend too.

Beauty Kitchen Products – Oil

They are an independent UK company who try to be as sustainable and natural as possible. This oil is wonderful for taking makeup off with, to give the face a quick massage with and to nourish skin. No more waking up looking like a dried up Mummy, with curiously puffy eye bags.

Laptop/Book

Before I go to sleep I watch an episode of 90210, Lucifer or You Tube makeup tutorials by Wayne Goss, with the screen dimmed. If my eyes aren’t too tired I’ll read a character driven novel. Anything that’s interesting but not taxing.

Healthy Crisps

I always find I need salty food to soak up the sugary alcohol I’ve had. It also means I don’t wake up starving but too tired to make breakfast/lunch. I find the crunching really relaxing as i carry a lot of tension in my jaw.

Oil Based Lip Balm

Skin needs both oil and moisturiser so I apply this before it’s needed. I’m such a mouth breather at night XoD

Scrunchy 

How do people sleep without their hair tied back, how!?  When I do that, it wraps around me like a Face-hugger from Alien and then I wake up with it looking like statically charged spaghetti.

HYDRATE! (Waiting for my new flask to arrive)

I always have weak, sugar free cordial (water just goes straight through me) to sip before I go to sleep, throughout the night and before I get up in the morning. This stops me feeling shite, keeps my skin clear and reduces eye bags and ‘desert mouth.’

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Before I started this routine I used to wake up with a really flushed face, crazy hair, bloating, bone-dry skin and feel more tired than when I went to bed! This has made a significant difference to my morning chronic fatigue and mental health; most days I’ll happily get up at 11.00am, rather than dragging my sorry arse out of bed at 1.00-2.00pm like I used to.

Chrissie

 

 

 

 

 

 

My Autumn Reading List

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Two funny uplifting books, two modern mysteries and a down-to-earth story with people who dangerously have their head in the clouds. I thought it was time I gave fantasy and sci-fi a rest for a while.

Is It Just Me by Miranda Heart

Similar over the top but very relatable scenarios to her show. This time she’s explaining how she experiences things such as fashion, Dr’s, technology and dating to her younger – rather naive but hopeful – self. Jolly good fun, if a tad awks!

Who Is Tom Ditto by Danny Wallace

Toms girlfriend has left a note to say she has left but not actually left him. Confused? So is he. The more clues he tracks down as to her whereabouts, the more he learns about his girlfriend and himself. He realises maybe he didn’t know as much about either as he first thought and why is there a random girl following him?

Junk by Melvin Burgess

I read this when I was 14 and it was a bit of a reality check compared to Sweet Valley High and Point Horror books! It’s about a love affair between two teenagers, heroin and the quirky group of people they fall in with. It’s about pushing boundaries because you feel you should but not caring where they should end.

Mirror Mirror by Cara Delevingne 

Red and Naomi are in a band together until Naomi suddenly disappears. As Red follows the twists and turns of events she realises that it’s not just their friendship at stake but their lives.

The Getaway Girls – Dee MacDonald

Connie has freedom to do what she wants for the first time in decades. She meets glamorous Gill and downtrodden Maggie and they decide it’s time for a change. A tour of France and Italy in a luxury camper van to be exact. They have funny shared experiences but each still have their own story going on including a secret that catches up with them.

Have you read or would like to read any of these? Let me know – no spoilers though!

Chrissie

 

 

Replacing Our Favourite Scents with Cruelty Free Ones part 1

On our journey to replace all of our favourite scents, me and the bloke have been trying a lot of samples to the point where we are having to make notes!

The scents the bloke is trying to replace:

Oud by The Body Shop (as they no longer stock it)

1 Million by Paco Rabanne.

Mine are:

Heat by Beyonce

Deep Red by Hugo Boss (I already have a fairly good one from Floral Street)

Burberry Woman (the bloke noticed this on someone and asked what it was)

All uplifting, musky orientals essentially.

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Eden perfumes are an independent, vegan company from Brighton who don’t test any ingredient or finished product on animals (they don’t ship to countries who demand testing by law). You can post bottles back to them and they will refill them for you.

The main thing that attracted me to them over other cf perfume companies is that, as well as creating original scents they also sell some highly recommended dupes for existing perfumes. The perfumes have similar names to the original name/brand or you can search by which notes you prefer under the perfume shop tab such as ‘fruity’ ‘woody’, ‘musky’ etc.

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The Sample Gift Box (£21.60) contains three 10ml perfumes of your choice and is incredibly useful for figuring out if you’ve made the right choice before committing to a 30ml or 50ml bottle. I find this sample size of bottle to still be handbag friendly but they are far easier to spray than some smaller tester bottles, which are way to fiddly for me.

Left: SHE 060 is a very fresh, sexy scent that reminds me of the best selling unisex scents in the early 2000’s. Centre: TREASURE 019 is an oriental fruity/floral and isn’t meant to be a dupe for Beyonce’s Heat but really reminds me of it, plus it’s lasted all day – 1 down, 4 to go! Right: BERRY BERRY 018 is meant to be a dupe of Burberry Woman but the bloke immediately said that wasn’t anything like the one he meant. I don’t know if the lass just said Burberry and didn’t know which specific one she was wearing or what? Sadly, it also faded incredibly quickly on my skin so was no use as a general perfume even. We’ll have to keep trying…

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In the second gift box I’ve ordered, I’ve included ‘Million Dollar Man’, ‘Oud Wood’ and ‘Virgin Waters’ which is a dupe of Virgin Island Water by Creed which I’ve never heard of  but apparently it smells of the beaches in the Bahamanian islands. Sold!

Keep in touch, I’ll let you know how our search goes…

Which scent would you want a dupe for?

Chrissie

 

How The Hell Do You Sit Down In High Waisted Trousers & Jeans!?

It took me ages to find some cargo pants that weren’t skinny fit or cropped and then I came across these by Stradivarius £20.50 at ASOS. I thought I’d give high waisted pants one more try to define my waist and flatter my podge.

Kinda cool right? Well made, neutral colour, decent fit, decent length and very comfy…when standing…that’s the problem.

When sitting they come right up to my boobs like I’m an old lady. If I squish them down a bit I look like a horny old man! Oh. Hell. No.

I’m usually the same height as the online models but then, they rarely have DD’s. I was wearing a decent bra though so it’s the waist band that’s too high or my torso is too short, not that my babs are too low. LOL

So I untucked my top…

Much better. I think I look like I have bigger hips (so more shape) with this swing vest untucked anyway. So these pants are going to keep my legs cool but my back nice and toasty for Autumn/Spring then, which is quite nice actually.

If you’ve managed to sit down comfortably, and without looking ridiculous in high waisted pants/jeans with your top tucked in or a cropped top, I’d really love to know! Anyone want to help me out here?

Chrissie